Someone said to me once, 'Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it'. And that statement seemed really profound. We wish for so many things in our lives. Infact desire is a part of human existence and if desire doesnt exist then you cease to be human, whatever Gita says.
Some of our desires are deserved, while some are not. And we get some of them fulfilled while some we don't. Infact, it is these which are at the base of all human action. Some are even subconsious like the desire to survive leading to involuntary actions like breathing.
It is the desires also which are at the root of all our miseries. For when they are not met, frustration sets in. But if the frustration part of a desire is ignored, then it is seen that even an unfulfilled desire has led to a growth. Again the law of unintended consequenses operating here. And sometimes a satisfied desire leads to stagnation because it brings in its wake complacency and fatigue.
I guess that was what the friend was alluding to with that statement. Because not all fulfiled desires are good and not all unfulfilled desire are bad. But this can lead us to think then fatalistically and that is where another big danger lies. If we cannot predict with certainty that our acts are ultimately for our good then why act? But that would be even more wrong. I guess it is better to act and fail than to not act at all. Even this blog is an outcome of that thought!